PonderEthereal

As a girl who uses dating sites, I find it extraordinarily difficult to weed through all the crap. However, there are some really easy ways to weed out the obvious ones. If you have any interest whatsoever in landing a female with a brain, here are 10 things you should not do.

1. Choose a user name with the words ’smooth’, ‘jerk’, ‘psycho’.
2. Add no information to your profile or put some trite message there like “I cant sum myself up in a paragraph” or “just email if you want to know”.
3. If you are 30, still live with your parents, don’t have a job or a car - just give up.
4. Email her in txt speak, with lowercase I’s or with no punctuation or proper capitalization.
5. Use a picture of yourself that you took on your webcam in your bedroom with your dirty laundry in the background
6. Post a picture with your ex obviously…

Could I just say that I am on the tippy, tippy edge of this thing we call preadolescence and I’m already wishing for a swift blow to the head?

He had sex ed a couple of weeks ago. And apparently the sex ed was very detailed because he got to see a picture of a vagina (insert mysterious oos and ahs here) and he got all of the details about a period and how exactly babies are born. And now? Sex is ALL he thinks about. EVERYTHING now is a sexual innuendo… and I’m his mom. I can’t imagine what it’s like with a bunch of 9 year old boys.

And? The meltdowns are so much worse. He is on the autistic spectrum so we’ve always had meltdowns… but these? These are like nuclear disasters. Re faced screaming and tears over how MEAN mom is and weepy, the sky is falling,…

Ethan : He’s working like 24-7.
Me : No… he works but he’s got a social life too. A social life is good.
Ethan : Well, YOU don’t have a social life!

“Can I spend the night?”, I asked. “Of course.. come for the weekend.” And so I packed the pup into the car and drove down. On this night, I sat up until midnight in the living room with the girls. Twas the night before Christmas. They decorated the tree, I fussed with their laptop, making it run right and I checked on mine regularly. We listened to Christmas carols and kept Tobi from peeing on everything in sight.

Eventually, we called it and I went to snuggle up in bed. I laid back with my book and began to read. But without the hubub of voices and motion around me, it began to happen… they began to leak into the sides, the edges, around corners. Thoughts, memories, questions… and finally tears.

My family wasn’t there with me. Ethan was with his dad and along with my ex, his parents, aunts,…

A cool presence that tingles across my awareness, playing at my boundaries, rolling across my thoughts. Echos I’m not supposed to hear, everything that’s wrong to feel. Like a child at play. Don’t touch it. Be careful. Be gentle. Repeated over and over. It’s ok. It’s ok. It’s ok. I swear, it’ll all be ok. Maybe it’s midnight that makes me feel this way. But midnight never felt that way before.

I came to a point in my life, not too long ago, when I gave up panic, in the moment. There is no reason for overwhelming emotion in that moment, there is no reason to push up against something I don’t know how to handle, in that moment. There is no reason for instant reactions. It simply does no good. It’s not productive.

I admit, that I reached that conclusion only after having been pushed into the panic corner so much that I finally gave up. And low and behold, the sky didn’t fall if I didn’t hold it up with my panic! I learned that if there is nothing that can be done right then, in that moment, there is simply nothing that can be done. It’s like living moment to moment, I suppose.

I might panic, in general when too much is laying on me and I certainly do…

The theme lately has been making stuff with what we have. If I’m going to buy the ice cream, I need to not buy the syrup. So I decided to make it! This is cobbled together from various sources and is absolutely delicious over ice cream. I’m not sure I will buy chocolate sauce again. :)

Ingredients
1 cup milk (I used reduced fat - I’m sure other kinds will work too)
6 T sugar
1 bag of semi sweet chocolate chips
1 tsp vanilla

Heat the milk at medium heat, ALMOST to a simmer. Pour the chocolate chips in a little bit at a time, constantly stirring. When all of the chocolate chips are in, stir until all lumps of chocolate are completely melted. Add sugar and vanilla to taste. Store refrigerated, in a sealed container.

This is a modified version of a much ritzier recipe that I was able to make with common ingredients that I had on hand. Everybody has pork chops now and again (I just happened to have a bottle of plum wine kickin’ it in the cabinet that I never used) and this is just a different way to make them.

It was absolutely kid-approved delicious with a much more extravagant taste than most of our meals. It is super cheap to make when you calculate the ingredients so it’s great on a budget AND it’s really, surprisingly quick.

Total prep time : 10 minutes
Total cook time : 15 minutes

Ingredients:
2 thick cut pork chops sliced into 1/4 inch thick slices
1/2 cup flour seasoned with salt and pepper
1 1/2 tblspn. Cooking oil
1 tsp. Butter
1/3 tsp. Garlic, minced
4 ozs. Plum Wine (you can get it at most liqueur stores)
1/2 cup Cream
1/2 tsp. Parsley, chopped
salt…

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Every day, I get an email in my mailbox from google alerts. It includes all blog entries and news stories from that 24 hour period with the word ‘witchcraft’ in it. Aside from the blog posts with the occasional spell, I’ve noticed a disturbing trend in the news. All over the world, innocent people are being stoned, burned and otherwise murdered for witchcraft.

All over the continents of Africa and Asia, in Saudi Arabia, India and in Papua New Guinea, people are still persecuted with a death sentence for practicing witchcraft and the terror and craze that comes over people at the mention of witchcraft still causes innocents to be murdered.

Only this month, a child was accused of witchcraft in the Central African Republic because she had nightmares and walked in her sleep, something that is known as a sleep disorder.

This WEEK alone, A story appeared of two children…