Beyond the Surface

A lot of what I do for people is show them patterns in their life. It really is amazing how much of our lives are simply learned and repeated patterns. It’s usually most obvious in relationships but it can run the gamut from mental ‘disorders’ to how we keep our home. Sometimes just by SEEING the patterns, there is automatic change. Sometimes it takes a little more effort.

I found the abandonment complex… and then I found some patterns stemming from that. Some of those patterns reversed automatically the moment I found the issue. Sex got better, self expression got better, moods evened out (as much as possible, given my current circumstances) and emotional eating all but stopped. There are other associated patterns that have been more difficult to break - like holding the illusion that everything means abandonment. It’s a pattern of finding abandonment in everything. Once I identify that I’ve simply repeated the pattern, the fear is gone.. but it’s hard to identify the pattern in some things sometimes.

I don’t think it’s any coincidence that I got the massage of my life in which she worked the knot that I earned 8 years ago from feeling abandoned and left to deal with everything on my own. From that single massage, I detoxed, I stand up straighter, I have less pain, I’ve lost weight (10 effortless lbs and counting!), I’ve reconnected with my WHOLE body, and consequentially dance, and I’ve worked through emotional issues. All of those things are a perpetuating cycle. Less pain and standing up straighter cause a better connection with my body. Better connection means dancing flows. Dancing flowing means weight loss. Standing up straighter means more confidence which means ability to deal with emotional issues… which means weight loss. They were all released by tackling where it was held in my body. It’s all connected… mind, body. We carry our patterns in our bodies.

So… patterns. We carry them in our bodies and in our minds. They reach out and entangle with the rest of our lives. Everything is touched by the patterns interwoven into our being. We learn them, most often, in childhood, before our critical mind has developed. We learn them less often in adulthood. And then we just mindlessly repeat them without realizing it. Until something breaks the pattern. And sometimes it’s a counselor like me sitting across from the person and sometimes it’s a massage therapist who unlocks the body source and sometimes it’s some other catalyst. Catalyst causes conscious thought and conscious thought changes patterns.

And there you are.