PonderEthereal

There is a lot that kids don’t pick up on about what goes on between adults, there is a lot they DO pick up on and there are some things they could not possibly grasp. As an adult though, I’m fairly confident of my ability to spot bullshit. When I was growing up, my mom talked a whole lot of smack about my dad. About how he didn’t want to talk to us, didn’t want to see us etc etc. She spent a lot of time and energy hiding us from him. Granted, he was at a bad point in his own life wehn they divorced and I’m not saying he is completely without fault.

Ethan is 6 years old. In that time, my mother has seen him once when he was 6 months old. She generally has made very little effort to see him, call him etc. My dad, on the other hand, has gone to see Ethan in person, called him, sent him stuff, invited him to come stay and offered to watch him - difficulty dealing with Michael aside. Of the two grandparents, Ethan is above and beyond more familiar with my father. Sure, my dad isn’t the warm fuzzy type but by the gods he’s really trying.

Maybe everything has somehow reversed in 20 years but I doubt it. Maybe it took me 20 years to get to the bottom of it all but finally, I feel like I have.